How often do you find yourself saying those words?
You have a short temper. “It’s just the way I am.”
You are always late. “It’s just the way I am.”
You are an introvert or an extrovert. “It’s just the way I am.”
You procrastinate yet again. “ It’s just the way I am.”
You are super controlling. “It’s just the way I am.”
You worry incessantly. “It’s just the way I am”
What if I told you that all of those actions/reactions are not the way you are, but the way you choose to be? What if I told you that saying “it’s just the way I am” is another way of saying “I don’t choose to be any different”? What if I told you it is just an excuse and if you wanted to change it, it is completely within your power to do so?
For me, this realization was life altering. Everything is a choice…literally everything! I choose to be introverted. I choose to be a worrier. I choose to be controlling. I choose to be a perfectionist.
When you look at it that way, then you get to ask yourself the following question: “Is choosing to be a _______________ serving me?” Is it helpful to me and my loved ones for me to choose being an introvert, a worrier, a control freak and a perfectionist? Doesn’t take long to answer those questions, does it?
After you reframe it this way, it becomes empowering to choose something different.
I’m not saying it’s easy. And I’m not writing this to pat myself on the back. I share this because these things were “facts” until I recognized that they weren’t. They were “just the way I was” until I saw that I could change. What a blessing that was!
So often we are unknowingly programmed at a young age and then go through life never reexamining these parts of our selves. It can benefit us SO MUCH if we do. We stop thinking that life “just happens to us”, and realize that we always have a choice in how we react.
So take a look at your own “facts”. Is there a trait that no longer serves you? If you choose to change, how different could your life be?
Do you need help changing your ingrained reactions? I can help you in the many ways that I have helped other women in your shoes. I will guide you to the peace you deserve in your life. Your life can be different and I can help you make the changes you crave. Click here to set up a “get to know you” session with me. It may just be the best thing that you choose to do today.
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