Remember when you were a kid?
That is probably what you remember when you think of the “joy of the season”–right?
How about now? Have those excited thoughts given way to mile long to do lists and a dreaded feeling of just how much you “have” to do this month?
When we become the adult and suddenly the holidays are something that need to be produced and directed, the happiness that the season is meant to bring can go right out the window. I know it did for me.
I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be this way. You can absolutely, positively bring back the joy and excitement that you remember from when you were younger. It isn’t even that hard–as long as you are willing to flex your “I’m choosing not to do that” muscle.
So here’s the thing. Be thoughtful about this. Take a little time and ask yourself, “How do I want to feel this holiday season?” What is going to light you up? (pun intended) Is it feelings of happiness, joy, satiety, relaxation, coziness, giving, connection, ease, or providing? Something else? Write them down.
Once you have your desired feelings, go back to your holiday to do list. Look it over. For each item on your list, ask yourself–is doing this going to give me one of my desired feelings? If yes, by all means keep it. If no—kick it to the curb!
Is sending that holiday card going to fulfill a desired feeling for you? Or is it just something that you do every year because of an unnecessary “should” or “have to”?
Remember–“supposed to” is completely self imposed. We don’t “have” to do any of it. (just because it has always been done doesn’t mean it has to continue–make new traditions!) The idea is to make choices for ourselves and our families that will bring joy and happiness.
For some, baking cookies is a stressful, messy, pain in the butt. For me, making hundreds of cookies with my daughters is one of my favorite parts of the holidays. It is important to me. But it won’t (and shouldn’t) be for everyone.
Bring back your childhood joy and excitement. Choose only what is going to make you happy during this festive season.
And please let me know–what are you going to keep and what is going to the land of “thanks, but no thanks”?
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Here’s to a childlike holiday month.