Almost every week I get to Thursday without having written this post. My process is to allow thoughts to ruminate during the week and by the time I sit down to write, I have some kind of inspiration. A lot of times there has been a running theme through my coaching calls and my personal contacts that seems to be worth sharing.
This week that theme goes something like this: “The key to making positive change in your life is believing that you can make positive change.”
I have read a lot of personal growth books. Fifty books? Maybe more. What I have realized is that the ones dealing with change, getting what you want, visualization and Law of Attraction almost all say the same thing. The authors come at the subject from different angles, but almost all of them teach the same lessons.
To summarize for you and use my most recent blog as an example, they say:
1. Figure out what you want in your life.
My renovation is complete and our house is ready to have the whole family home for Christmas.
2. Get specific and clear.
My whole family is comfortably accommodated, our new kitchen is churning out holiday goodies, our tree is up and the house feels comfy and cozy.
3. Behave as though it is already yours. Think about it often. Picture yourself as being, doing or having what it is that you want.
I speak to everyone as though this is a foregone conclusion. “We will be in for Christmas.”
4. Take inspired action toward your goal.
I have contact with my contractor daily and am actively picking out furnishings, lighting and window treatments.
5. Let go of it being hard to achieve and ask for “this or something better”
I absolutely want to be in for Christmas, but am enjoying the renovation process and know that if we don’t make it, everything will work out fine.
So why doesn’t everyone have everything they want in their lives? Mostly because they write off self help, new age and personal growth concepts as a bunch of hooey. (And by the way, I used to do that too.)
Here in lies the catch. If you believe it is hooey, it is. If you believe it is true, it is.
Your thoughts make your reality. If you believe that you can have what you want, if you believe you are worthy of it and that it is yours for the asking–it can and will be.
But if you don’t believe it? It will not be true for you. If you keep believing what you always have, nothing will change. You will continue to believe what most of society does— That life is hard. That there are no good jobs. That money is very difficult to come by. That people cannot be trusted. That renovations never finish on time. That there is much more bad than good in the world.
There are millions of us on the bandwagon for creating the life that you desire. But there are many, many millions more that dismiss, bad mouth and reject the thought that they could need anything resembling self help.
So how can you go from being a skeptic to a believer? For some it is as easy as giving it a shot. They figure they have nothing to lose, so they decide to believe it for one small part of their life to see what will happen. If done wholeheartedly, that small step can lead to an entirely new approach.
I think one of the reasons that it was easy for me to switch my thinking is because I already had examples of this working for me. The biggest one was the way I had thought about my career and money starting from when I was a teenager, to the way it came true in my twenties. I didn’t know that I was visualizing or manifesting or whatever you want to call it. But that is exactly what I did.
Over to you. Are you a die hard personal growth peep? Or one of the naysayers? Can you think of a place in your life where you have believed something so strongly that you made it your reality? Does that make you think that maybe you could apply it to other parts of your life?
If you want to speak more specifically about this topic or the personal goals you have for yourself, first calls with me are always complementary. Please hit contact in the upper right hand corner so we can set up a time to chat.
P.S. New testimonials:
Working with Lorna has changed my life on so many levels. She begins by clearly providing a safe space in which to really open your mind and your heart to whatever changes may present, and she does this with so much grace, wisdom and love. Her ability to actively listen and engage in discussion many times leads to goal setting and what I like to call “goal-keeping”, as she is amazing at lovingly encouraging accountability. Lorna has a kind heart and a deep spirituality about her that allows me to truly expose myself in ways that I have never allowed myself to share. With her help, I have been able to identify my patterns, some that I have had the majority of my life, and shift my thought patterns, reactions and perceptions, which has changed the entire outcome of many situations. Lorna is like the wise, big sister that I have always wanted and I highly recommend exploring a relationship with her.
~Christine, Richmond, VA
Lorna has helped me look at the big picture and identify the things that are most important to me. She has helped me focus on the small shifts that make a huge difference to my daily quality of life and I couldn’t be happier with the results. Her insights and practical suggestions have made a lot more room in my thinking, especially in the unexamined beliefs I had about what a “good” wife and mother is “supposed to do.” She has gently encouraged me to engage with the parts of myself I’m not as proud of and also helped me see strengths I didn’t know I had. I feel fortunate to have found such a gifted life coach and highly recommend her to anyone wanting life to just be better.
~L. in Rye, NY