Do what you fear and fear disappears.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Face your fears.
Always do what you are afraid to do.
It is one thing to agree with these pithy statements, it is another thing altogether to do what they say.
The website you are looking at is brand new. I hope you like it and that you will hang out and poke around after you finish reading this.
Why did I change my website and my business focus?
After working with women on health related issues for the past three years, something emerged. Every woman I worked with—Every. Single. One. — put other peoples needs ahead of their own.
Ok, you say. Women do that.
True. Women are nurturers and care takers and it seems a default position that women take care of everyone else.
But. Women understand now that we can’t help anyone if we don’t take care of ourselves first. Women understand that without our health we are useless to the world. Women understand that our quality and quantity of life is being undermined by forsaking our own health and well-being.
And yet. When this is identified. When my clients see how their lack of self care is hurting them and their loved ones—they still don’t change. They might change for a bit, but ultimately these incredibly intelligent, incredibly efficient women who have the means to do what needs to be done, self sabotage and end up back where they started.
What I have come to realize is that despite living in a world where women can have it all, we are still trying to live up to unwritten and unspoken standards that keep us always feeling less than.
These standards have to do with “Mrs. Perfect”—that perfectly dressed, perfectly coiffed, has it altogether woman with the husband, home, kids and bank account to back it all up. We all know her.
No matter how much we have achieved, no matter how well our lives are going and how many of the goals we have ticked off our lifetime to do list, “Mrs. Perfect” still makes us feel bad about ourselves.
And here is the thing. “Mrs. Perfect” is a figment of our imagination. If you pull the curtains back on “Mrs. Perfect’s” home—you will see a much different picture. It could be an unhappy marriage, struggling kids, alcoholism, OCD behavior or an eating disorder. The list could go on. “Mrs. Perfect” is just a façade.
“Mrs. Perfect” Does. Not. Exist.
This is why my website has been overhauled. This is what my clients and I work on now.
Getting away from the constant pressure to be perfect. Getting in touch with who we are and what we need to be happy. Getting over being judgmental about “Mrs. Perfect” so we can stop judging ourselves and other women and get on with the business of living happily.
So this is me facing my fear. This is me speaking to groups of women and telling my story. This is me using this blog as a forum to ‘fess up and get real.
Not that I was a “Mrs. Perfect,” per se, but that the “I’m great, everything is fine” production that I put on for almost a decade couldn’t have been further from the truth. I struggled. My marriage struggled. My family struggled. All was not what it seemed. And I know now that if I had talked about it, if I had let go of the need to protect, the need to pretend that things were perfect—it could have been a lot less difficult.
So now I am facing my fears and putting myself out there to help other women. To say, “I’ve been there, I know what you are going through and I can help you make things better.”
I’m facing my fear and if you are ready to face yours, I am here to help you regain control of your beautiful life.
What is a fear you want or need to face in your life? Please leave a comment below.