Tonight I am following up on last weeks post about hard work. I promised you the conclusion today, but it is difficult to write about this topic as more heartbreaking news of death and destruction is being delivered over the newswire.
These past weeks of terrorism, hate crimes and police brutality both at home and abroad have been devastating, overwhelming and demoralizing.
I am only going to say that hurt people hurt people.
No one who feels loved and cherished has any need to hurt another human being. It just doesn’t happen.
When we find a way to instill safety, love and appreciation into every individual, so many of our problems will evaporate.
We, the human race, are all in this together and the sooner we start looking out for each one of our brothers and sisters the sooner we will have the peace that we crave.
There doesn’t have to be an us and a them. It can all be us.
With love in my heart, I will leave it there for now.
Last week I wrote about hard work being overrated. I know it sounds like sacrilege, but I want to show you that there is a different way. If you want to refresh your memory or missed last weeks missive, you can find it HERE.
Stay in your wheelhouse
The number one way to avoid hard work is to do what you love. There are millions of people slogging through their lives because they are doing what was expected of them. Whether they fell into something by default, or chose based on a parent or societal pressure, they never wanted to be doing what they are doing and thus it all feels very hard.
The way to work easy or not feel like you are working at all is to follow your heart and do something that comes as easily to you as breathing. Do the thing that you would do for free. You’ve probably been doing it most of your life anyway. The beauty of today’s world is that you can turn almost anything into a way to make a living.
Might you need to take a risk to do the thing you love? Sure. But you can fail at what you don’t love too. Your chances of success are so much higher when you have passion for what you do.
Own your choices
Your life situation may feel hard to you. You may believe that things have just happened to you and that you have had very little say in it.
I’d like you to remember that you are always in choice. Whether you realize it or not, everything you do in your life has been agreed upon by you.
If you are over scheduled it is because you said yes to too many things.
If you hate your job it is because you haven’t done anything to change the situation from within or find a new company to work for.
If your kids are overstepping their bounds it is because you haven’t maintained structure and boundaries for them.
If your marriage is not where you want it, it is because you have let things get to this point.
There is good news and bad news here. It may suck to realize that you have dug your own hole, but if you got yourself here, it means you can get yourself out.
Once you take responsibility for your choices, then you can make the decisions that are best for you and those closest to you. There is some practice that goes into this because so many people (women especially) are so attached to being liked and pleasing others that it is hard for them to pinpoint what they actually want.
Please believe me when I say that learning what you really want and figuring out how to get it are two of the greatest skills you can master. And once you have mastered them, life becomes easier still.
The Daily Grind
What about the have to’s in life? The obligations, the chores, the errands, the bills, the relatives, the taxes! How do those things not end up feeling like hard work?
Choice plays a part in this one too. You don’t really have to do anything. You choose to keep your house in some semblance of order, to pay your taxes to stay out of jail and to get things done so that your life can keep running.
So when you recognize that you are choosing to do things rather then being forced to do them, you get to figure out what attitude you are going to bring to the tasks.
When you look at a list of things that you are choosing to do, ask yourself what attitude you would like to bring with you. Since you have decided that you will get the list done, it is just a matter of how it’s going to feel while you are doing it.
You can choose to be cranky and angry and put out, or you can choose to be thankful and lighthearted and fun about it.
It’s up to you.
One feels good and will probably have you getting things done easily and quickly, while the other feels heavy and more than likely will leave you with many hassles.
Which would you prefer?
As you might imagine, I recommend you go for the easy, fun way.
Life can be hard.
But life can be easy too.
So instead of forcing yourself to do things that have you working so hard you are miserable, why don’t you choose to spend your time doing what you love? Whether it is your family, your job, your hobbies, your friends or your exercise routine, if you stick with what makes you happy, life will feel easy.
In order to change your life, you must first change your mind.