I know it’s been a while.
Maybe you noticed that I haven’t been in your in box lately. Or maybe you didn’t.
Either way, I have certainly felt the passage of each Thursday as it came and went without me hitting send. It has left me with the persistent feeling of something being lost.
Since I started writing three and a half years ago I don’t think I’ve ever skipped more than two weeks in a row, and certainly not without letting you know I’d be taking a break. But now it’s been over a month of silence, with no explanation.
There is so, so much to what I am about to tell you, but today I’m going to stick to the bare bones; my husband and I are separating.
One of the reasons I haven’t said anything sooner is because with the decision and telling the kids, emotions are running high.
I very much want to be authentic and truthful when I write about why we are splitting and what we anticipate our separation will look like (amicable, btw)—but I want to make sure that my perception of “the truth” is not tainted during this challenging time.
As difficult as these days and weeks have been, I am still thankful every single day for my incredible family and friends and for the inner strength that I have cultivated that I now need to lean on—big time.
All of the things that I write and teach about are lovely and even somewhat quaint when the worst thing you are dealing with is a cranky barista, road rage or an annoying relative.
But when the walls of your life come crumbling down, that is when you really figure out if this stuff works.
I’m not gonna lie—I’ve had some dark days. But overall, I want to report, that yes, these teachings absolutely, positively do work.
Knowing myself, trusting myself, loving myself and being able to ask for the help and support that I need is getting me through these days.
As they say in Buddhism—pain in life is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
I am using every tool in my toolbox to suffer as little as possible. Some days are better than others.
Part of being a life coach is taking my own experience and using it to help others. I do feel that this latest chapter, even in its infancy, has taught me so much that I couldn’t have understood before.
I am hopeful to be back on a regular writing schedule going forward, and I will definitely have more to share on this topic.
For now, I will keep putting one foot in front of the other and trusting that all of this will somehow work out.
Not only offering, but also accepting:
In order to change your life, you must first change your mind.