Happy July 4th!!
As we embark upon Independence day weekend here in the U.S., the notion of freedom has got me thinking.
Freedom is what our country was built on and continues be our battle cry.
Everyone is quick to defend their actions by saying, “It’s a free country!”
The idea is that freedom allows us to go anywhere, do anything, achieve limitlessly, choose our circle of loved ones all while being relaxed, healthy, wealthy and happy.
Has that level of freedom been your experience?
How free do you actually feel?
Because I don’t run into many women who seem all that free to me. And this is across the board: married, single, kids, no kids, career, stay at home. Women don’t feel free.
In my experience this is because so many women are living by unwritten rules that keep them bound.
Rules regarding the should’s, the have to’s, the supposed to’s.
Rules about the “proper” ways to behave, look and get things done.
Rules that force you to raise your bar higher and higher.
Rules that have you constantly striving and pushing both yourself and your kids.
Rules that say you always need to know the answer and that everything has to get done in a certain way by a certain time.
Do your rules have you needing to be liked? Needing to prove your worthiness? Needing to earn love and appreciation?
Do these rules make you feel free? Or does it feel more like a never ending marathon?
Because if you are forcing yourself to achieve and prove and care for everyone else before yourself, you are anything but free.
And I want to be clear:
The rules DO NOT exist.
You know this already because you see people all around you that are certainly not living by your rules.
There was a time in your life when your rules kept you safe. But that time has passed and now they only keep you stuck.
This is a free country and you really do have freedom, but you aren’t allowing it for yourself.
You need to rewrite or let go of most of your rules.
Think about that this weekend.
Think about all the things that you do on a regular basis that aren’t your first choice.
Think about how aligned (or unaligned) you are with where you are in your life.
Think about whether you have what you want.
Think about whether you even know what you want.
Many women don’t allow themselves to want.
Please enjoy the weekend. But more than that, please think about what being free would look like for you.
And trust that you can have freedom within the constraints of your present life. There is no need for divorce lawyers or year long stays in Ashrams. Freedom can be accomplished right where you are.
I know because I gained my freedom while still being a wife, mother of 5 and a Life Coach.
Are you ready for the magnificence that comes with true freedom?
The truth about the land of the free is that you do have choices. You can rewrite your rules. You have always been able to, you just haven’t realized it. The rules that bind you are self imposed.
If you are ready to live by different rules from now on and would like some guidance getting started, please hit contact in the upper right hand corner of this page to set up your complimentary call with me.
Let this July 4th be your true Independence Day!!!
In order to change your life, you must first change your mind.