Who will you be today?
Will you be:
The you that you are with your husband and kids?
The you that you are with your girlfriends?
The you that you are at work?
The you that you are with those in authority?
The you that you are with your first family?
The you that you are with your in laws?
The you that you are when you are alone?
The you that you are around people that you don’t like?
The you that you are at social events?
The you that you are in sports?
The you that you are with waitstaff, customer service and repair people?
And if the you that you are is different in each of those scenarios, it begs the follow up question–
Which you is the real you???
Have you ever thought about this? It’s true isn’t it? You put on a slightly different facade, a slightly different tone of voice, a slightly different defensive position, attitude or feeling of deference in all those situations. Don’t you?
And sometimes it feels just right. You feel happy, free and lighthearted. You laugh and speak your mind and don’t feel self conscious or uncomfortable in the least. You forget about your body and how you look. You don’t think twice about what you say. You just get to be you. 100%.
But that doesn’t happen very often, if at all, anymore does it? Most of the time you are uncomfortable in some way. You feel fake or like a fraud. You aren’t being your whole, real self. And sometimes you aren’t even sure who your real self is.
You find yourself wanting someone’s attention or feeling like you need to make yourself understood.
You either feel less than or are careful not to brag and seem more than who you are with.
You feel anxious or down about what is being discussed. You worry about how your words have been taken.
You feel angry or resentful about the way you feel people are judging you.
You feel uncomfortable about your weight, your outfit or the way you look.
You want to be yourself, but it all feels slightly off.
If someone were to run random electronic emotional scans on you, the results would come back with words like: awkward, edgy, uneasy, rattled.
It doesn’t happen constantly, but it happens more often than you would like.
While those uncomfortable feelings are the daily norm for most people, I want you to know that it doesn’t have to be like that for you.
It is completely in your power to be the real you in every situation. For you to feel comfortable in your skin, confident in what you say and unconcerned whether people get you or not.
You can have that 100% comfortable feeling in your marriage, your parenting and your life on a daily basis.
You don’t have to be different depending on who you are with. You can be the same you all the time.
It’s very possible, but I’m not going to lie—it takes some work and it takes some time. But it is completely in your grasp if you are open to new knowledge and making some changes.
If you are ready to feel better every day.
If you are ready to drop the facade once and for all.
If you are ready to get back in touch with who you really are and once you do that,
ready to stop making excuses and fully BE who you are–
then I have something really important for you.
Next week I am going to post information about my Fall programs. This time around, there will be both in person and virtual classes. And you will have different days and times to choose from.
The Change Your Mind, Change Your Life Group Program is an opportunity for you to emotionally upgrade your life. It can be–You 2.0
I know I am leaving you hanging a bit today. That is because there is no quick answer to this one. You have built up a lot of layers over many years.
More to come, but in the mean time–think about it.
Are you ready for things to be different? Really, truly, lastingly different?
It is almost back to school. For many of us this is our New Year. A time of new beginnings.
What if this year the new beginning is for you?
P.S. If you already know that you are in, please hit contact in the upper right hand corner to let me know so I can hold a slot for you. Space is limited and I want to make sure you get the day/time of your choice.
P.S.S. And OBVS–any questions please shoot them over!
In order to change your life, you must first change your mind