People don’t always do what they said they were going to do. I am 43 years old and no matter how many meditations, breathing exercises, staying in the now, loving what is practices I put into place, it still bugs the crap out of me when people don’t do what they said they were going to do.
How to deal with this? I understand intellectually I must let go of the need to control all outcomes. I must go with the flow and pick up the slack when need be. I must not count on people when they tell me they will take care of something.
But see, I hate that. Why shouldn’t I be able to count on people? Especially people who insist they are organized and have it handled. That is the worst kind of disappointment.
I love people. I really do. But I pride myself on being good to my word. Is it terrible to want the people in my life to do the same? (And this begs the question—Do the people in my life think I am as good to my word as I think I am?)
I’m usually pretty good at turning stuff like this around and giving folks the benefit of the doubt. But generally when it comes to this particular topic, you can easily see all the other things the person did that was NOT the thing they said they were going to do for you. All the other things that they chose to put ahead of you that has now left you in the lurch.
Honestly, I have no lesson that goes along with this post. I have no “aha” moment to make this ok. I’m just plain bummed out.
Maybe you guys can help me this week? What do you do when someone lets you down? How do you handle it when you were assured that it was going to happen and it doesn’t?
All help and comments appreciated.