I have a strange question for you today.
What do you think about at night in bed before you fall asleep?
I’ll tell you if you tell me.
But first let me tell you my old pattern.
I used to lay in bed overthinking.
I would worry about conversations I had had that day and what I should have said.
I would worry about what I needed to do the next day, the next week, the next month.
I used to obsess over what my kids or my husband or my friends should be doing with their lives.
In short, I used to put my energy towards a whole bunch of stuff that had either already happened or hadn’t happened yet—things I had zero control over in that moment (if ever).
Total waste of time and energy, would you agree?
The Dalai Lama said, “There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday and the other is called tomorrow, so today is the right day to love, believe, do and mostly live”
It was time for something new.
So now? This is what I think after I am tucked up in bed:
I don’t just think each word, I think, feel and picture the action and emotion behind each word.
These are the things that I am/want to be. These are the feelings and actions I want to embody all day long. These are the ways of being that I want to personify. These are the things I want my energy going towards.
I used to think that life just happened. That I was along for a ride and I needed to hang on and do the best I could.
I have learned that this is not true. Life is intentional. Life is what we make it. Life is where we put our thoughts and our energy.
So now I choose to focus on what I have and what I want in my life. By doing this every night I become more and more comfortable with these feelings. I slowly convince myself that this is who I am, that these words and feelings are truly my life.
Then after some time, it starts to happen for REAL. When it does I am ready. I don’t get scared or self sabotage, because I have been preparing and thinking about it all along. It feels natural.
Suddenly I am all those things. Suddenly my wants have become my reality. I believed it to be real and then it was.
How about you? What are you focusing on? Is it serving you? What can you focus your energy on to change your reality?
Leave me a comment below and tell me what you think about before falling asleep.