When I realized we would be moving, I made a personal vow that I was not going get overwhelmed. I was going to use all the stuff I work on with my clients—mindset, attitude, breathing exercises and new found ways of approaching situations to keep myself on an even keel. I knew I needed to practice what I preach.
With the exception of one horrible day, I have been able to do just that. I asked for and accepted the help I needed to get the house ready to sell. My husband and I have worked tirelessly and completely as a team to clear out, get rid of and otherwise get our house in lovely condition for potential buyers. Seven people over fifteen years can accumulate an astounding amount of stuff, let me tell you.
So I haven’t been bitchy or mean or bossy. I haven’t fought with anyone (except on aforementioned horrible day). I haven’t cried. These have been big steps and completely different than the way things might have gone a few years ago.
But here is the interesting thing. I have become really flighty. I am repeating myself frequently. I have left my phone in restaurants. My daughter was in a competition in another town and we went to the High School to pick her up. She was at the Middle School. I locked the keys in the Pod. I haven’t been able to sleep.
My behavior begs the question-When we get into unusual, life changing situations does our fear of the unknown and stress of the situation have to come out in some way? Is it possible (or even desirable) to remain your usual self when there is some kind of major upheaval in your life (marriage, baby, moving, illness, death in the family, children leaving for college)?
I knew for me that I didn’t want to be in a state of high stress for months on end while we go through the process of downsizing. I am doing well on that so far, but have still had unintended consequences.
I don’t have a lesson or a conclusion on this one yet. The situation has raised questions for me–is it just life? Or do I have more evolving to do to get to a place where I can stay 100% myself during any situation. And would I want that?
I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Do you think it is a necessary part of life to go a little wacky during a life change? Or have you been able to take a major change in stride? What lessons or a-ha’s have you taken away from either scenario? Please leave a comment below.