You know that feeling when you are on top of the world? When you are in love or got the big promotion or the new house you have been pining for. You know that feeling? The feeling that no one can ruin, no matter what? You are in your happy bubble and nothing can touch you. You are walking on air and life is perfect and wonderful.
What if you could feel like that all the time? What if you could walk around day in and day out not letting things bother you? That no matter what happens, you stay happy and even keeled?
Think it’s not possible? Ok, I admit it might not be the walking on air, complete feeling of elation—BUT it can be dealing with what happens and not letting it ruin your mood.
Still skeptical? I get it. I was too.
But you really can. It is all about training your brain. We are so programmed to label everything—good, bad, ugly, beautiful, awkward, embarrassing, awful, wonderful, scary, peaceful—you get the idea.
But what if we took away the labels? What if instead of judging it we simply say “it is”.
For example, the weather is rainy and windy. You can label it and get grumpy and huff around while getting your rain gear and umbrella. You can let it annoy you and ruin your mood for the day. OR you could say, “Hmmmm…it is raining.” You skip the judgment, get your raincoat and umbrella and go about your day.
The rain is there no matter. It is your attitude and opinion about the rain that gets you in trouble.
We do this with everything. Is the delayed flight a personal vendetta against us? Or is it just a delayed plane? Is the customer service representative purposely causing you headaches? Or is she just doing her job and you are letting the situation get the better of you? Did your friend rudely snub you at school pick up? Or did she perhaps not see you and your opinion of what you think happened is ruining your afternoon?
Why do we always take it personally? 99 times out of 100 it has absolutely, positively nothing to do with us. Nothing.
And even if it does—what good does it do us to resist it? How is it helping us when we react? If the weather is bad, if someone is rude to us, if we spill something, if we have one thing after another go wrong? Does the situation change based on our anger or frustration about it?
What’s done is done. We can either accept it and move on or resist it and let it bother us for some unspecified amount of time.
We are so programmed to react. But as I often ask, “Is it serving you to react?” Getting angry, frustrated, annoyed, hurt or jealous. Do you enjoy those emotions? Do they help you in any way?
Try it today. When something happens that you would normally react to: Stop. Breathe. Decide in the moment that you are going to accept what happened, deal with it if you need to and go about your day. Notice how it feels to sidestep the emotional reaction.
The more you practice this, the more your brain becomes accustomed to it, the easier it gets. It may not be the elation of being in love, but it is a happy bubble and you have all the power to make sure no one pops it.
Do you think you could go a full day without reacting to anything? Please leave me your thoughts in the comments.